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A Parting Gift

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Today is my last official day as Standing on the Side of Love Campaign Manager. As a small token of thanks for your incredible partnership and support over the last two years, I offer a parting gift.

I love music. I have a few hundred playlists for every occasion and mood, spanning many different genres and languages. Over the years, I have burned playlists for friends, family, and loved ones on birthdays, anniversaries, births, weddings, holidays, and other momentous occasions.

So, for all of you, who I count among my loved ones, on this occasion of my professional transition, I offer Dan’s Playlist for Love & Justice.

Click here to listen.

Each song in its own way has buoyed my spirits as an activist, and for me represents faith in humanity, a better world, and love as a guiding principle. Maybe this will inspire you to share your own playlist of songs that exemplify love and justice. I know I’d love to hear it.

Instead of a goodbye, I leave you with a favorite quote:

“I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides…a place of light, of love, of truth, of peace, of wisdom. I honor the place in you where when you are in that place I am in that place…there is only one of us.” – Gandhi

It’s been a most amazing two years. Many, many thanks for our shared community of Love People!

Keep shining,

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Dan Furmansky
Campaign Manager
Standing on the Side of Love

P.S. If you want to stay in touch, please feel free to friend me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/dan.furmansky.3.


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Coming Out Transgender at Work: One Colorado Offers A Best Practice Example

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One Colorado, a statewide advocacy organization for LGBT Coloradans, had a big announcement this week. The organization’s deputy director, Jess Woodrum, came out as a transgender man. This means that Jess will now be known as Jace and using male pronouns like he, him, and his.

As Jace says, “For me, there’s just a disconnect. There’s a disconnect between the gender that’s in my head and the gender that’s in my body. So I’ve got to fix it, right?”

In this excellent video, Jace–joined by his One Colorado Executive Director Brad Clark–explains more about what transition means for him and how his friends and colleagues can rebound from the inevitable gaffes they will make as they get used to Jace’s transition.



Brad Clark announced Jace’s transition in an email to the entire One Colorado membership. “Honestly, I have never been more proud and humbled by the courage of a colleague,” he wrote. “I hope you will join me in ensuring a smooth, inclusive and uplifting transition for someone we have all come to know and love.”

This is a phenomenal example of how an employer–or anyone for that matter–can be truly supportive during an employee’s transition. Brad and the One Colorado staff have clearly recognized the journey ahead for Jace and the courage that comes with his decision. We send love to Jace for the journey ahead and commend One Colorado for their commitment to educating through story-telling and example.

To see some resources on transgender welcome, inclusion, and affirmation for your congregation, visit: http://www.standingonthesideoflove.org/blog/affirming-transgender-members-creating-celebratory-ceremonies/

Affirming Transgender Members: Creating Celebratory Ceremonies

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crossingpathsCongregations across the country are taking bold steps to become more welcoming, inclusive, and affirming of transgender and gender nonconforming members, family members, and friends.

One of the most supportive things a congregation can do is honor and celebrate the steps a member takes to affirm their authentic gender identity. There are many different land marks or decisions that a transgender person might make in order to authentically live into their gender identity—for example, changing their name, changing the pronouns they prefer, changing their gender marker on legal documents, undergoing some form of medical intervention, or even just the act of coming out to a particular community of people and naming their true gender identity.

Many congregations have held special ceremonies for trans members, such as renaming ceremonies or gender affirmation rituals. Most have created these ceremonies from scratch in collaboration with the member being honored.

There is a sample renaming ceremony and a name change affirmation and blessing that appear in the UUA’s 2003 publication Crossing Paths: Where Transgender and Religion Meet, available for free online. Crossing Paths also contains writings by transgender people of faith, family members, and allies about transgender identity and spirituality, and a three-part workshop series that anyone can lead on gender and transgender identity.

Has your congregation held an affirmation ceremony for a transgender or gender nonconforming member? Email love@uua.org and share your ceremony so that we can lift up your story and inspire and aid others in creating similar rituals!

Thank you for standing on the side of love with people of all gender identities and gender expressions!

Alex Kapitan

This post is by Alex Kapitan, Congregational Justice Administrator at the Unitarian Universalist Association.

More resources on transgender welcome, inclusion, and affirmation:

-Crossing Paths: Where Transgender and Religion Meet
-Transgender 101: Identity, Welcome, and Resources
-Transgender Welcome and Ministry,
a 2011 General Assembly workshop
-Beyond Inclusion: Creating Trans-Celebratory Faith Communities, an upcoming workshop at the free Philadelphia Trans Health Conference
-Resources for Hosting a Transgender Day of Remembrance Event

Families with Transgender Children Share Their Stories

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The April episode of public television show In the Life tells the powerful stories of eight amazing families with transgender and gender-nonconforming children ages 5 to 25. Entitled “Becoming Me,” the episode chronicles the journey of these families as they navigate changing relationships, puberty, and choices about medical transitions. While each family’s experience is unique, they all approach the situation with tremendous acceptance and truly demonstrate the power of unconditional love.

Watch the full episode here:

Snapshots from a Life in Transition

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This article originally appeared in the Interweave Continental newsletter. To learn more, visit: http://www.interweaveuu.org.


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Sun Principe is the Vice President of Interweave Continental.

When I came out to my friends as transgender some years ago, one question that friends often asked me was “When did you know?” I wondered, “What had they missed?” It seemed pretty clear to me that I was always male and had been born into the wrong body. For friends and allies who had come to accept and even celebrate masculinity in the female body, some were confused as to how I could have been so active in the lesbian and gay civil rights movement for years and then “change” my identity to transgender. The simple answer was “I am still me. This is about my spirit. My body is the house of my spirit.” Some who were not involved or invested in queer community questioned me as if I had suddenly lost my mind.

A gay male friend told me, “You lesbians are always inventing something new!” Some long-time lesbian friends were not comfortable with the thought of me modifying my body so that the outer appearance was congruent with my inner feelings. For all the talk about freedom of expression and choice, apparently it was not applicable when it came to me and my choices.

Since my coming out as a queer teen had been tumultuous for me, I was not looking forward to more of this. It was time to deal with a dirty word: transphobia. Some might call it, Queer phobia, and it is alive and well in our cities and towns.

Intellectually, we all must be the stewards of our own development, mentally, physically and spiritually, but in the face of injustices such as lack of protection in the workplace, we have a communal obligation to work together for communal change and development. Right now, my friends, it is looking like a long road ahead. I began to think about what I personally could contribute to the larger society’s understanding of the journey that many are on.

The Unitarian Universalist’s in New England, had been so amazing to work with during the worst of the AIDS epidemic that I thought, “Surely we can take this on.” We could become more aware of the intersections between freedom of choice as it pertains to a woman’s basic right to choose and freedom of choice as it applies to the lives of LGBT people, without forgetting that final “T”.

Life choices or body modifications for a Trans-person may come under fire, even from allies in the struggle for equality. Push-back from within the queer community came as a shock to me. There is a perception that some individuals expressed to me that transgender individuals are “selling out” by “becoming straight”. Sexual identity is often confused with gender identity, which can prevent trans-people from receiving the understanding and full inclusion they deserve within our congregations.

So what can we do?

We can all participate in educating ourselves and each other on trans-issues and the differences between gender, sex and orientation. Talking to one another and listening deeply are always great places to begin when it comes to providing a hospitable environment. Having a trans-person speak in each congregation can go a long way towards valuing each person’s story and voice. Hearing sermons on trans-issues and people makes a statement about the importance of this to all of our spiritual lives. Having a trans person invited to speak at the pulpit beyond their identity as issue moves from merely educating and valuing a personal story to honoring the individual in their wholeness as an accepted part of that religious community.

We know from experience that there is power and healing in telling our own stories. Our congregations and in addition, our Interweave groups nationwide provide a safe haven for those who are seeking community. At this time in history, we need one another more than ever. We have many who are wondering where they can go to find compassionate community, even in seemingly liberal locations where the perception is that the population is well informed and open minded.

The trans journey is not easy, speaking from personal experience. There are challenges that no one could have convinced me of before I chose to start telling others how I identify. I have a conservative Christian family that mostly does not understand my choices. During the mid 90’s AIDS pandemic in Provincetown, MA, amidst a wave of death in our community, my church community became something of a chosen family. It was there that I began to see my potential as a gender variant person living in my own skin. It was there that I was called to community ministry and working with those who are historically or currently marginalized and in some cases, forgotten.

I recall my early work in AIDS ministry and a team of gay men who were my volunteers referring to me as one of the boys. This was a safe and welcoming environment for me, as no one cared about my gender identity: we were too busy dealing with life and death. AIDS ministry taught me to value every precious moment and not get caught up in the small stuff. Life is a gift.

We may assume that our trans congregants are doing OK because everything looks fine on the surface, but the world outside the walls of our congregations may not be very welcoming to us. Being a young trans person today almost guarantees that 75% of the peer population, may not be supportive. So when we ask you to listen or read or to help us educate, please hear this: your very action today may change a life. Right now, there is a Trans person in your community who is hungry for welcome. I am so inspired by how many of you are working on the front lines for equality; what a gift that is. Yet, I want you to know, especially if you are not normally someone who sees yourself as that interested or engaged in social justice, that inviting someone to coffee hour can be an act of profound welcome and justice. Making a place at the table for someone who may not have a community is grace in action.

We need one another on this journey. We need Interweave groups that provide a safe place to connect. We need our ministers to keep those who are marginalized in the justice conversations. We need to be courageous and speak the truth with love. We need to open our hearts as well as our wallets and make it possible for young trans people to attend our conferences and General Assembly. We need to reach out to the gender variant teenager with authenticity and care.

We need you to join us in the ministry of hope, as we turn our collective conscience to the work of honoring the inherent worth and dignity of all people.

With love & light,
Sun Principe
Vice President
Interweave Continental