My life is valuable. There is no greater gift than the ability to touch everyone and everything around me with the joy and playfulness and creativity that come forward when I can be my full, authentic self and at home in my gender. For me, being transgender is a blessing.
But being transgender also means constant worry if I haven’t heard from one of my chosen family members when I expected to. It means that I am never more than one degree removed from the violence and prejudice that plagues my community. For so many of us, particularly my transgender siblings of color, this violence is constant. The grief and trauma of losing so many family members is constant.
Transgender Day of Remembrance—honored each year on November 20—is the day that we set aside to mourn. This day is dedicated to honoring all those we have lost in the past year to anti-transgender hatred; bearing witness to the transphobia, racism, and sexism that play such a central role in this violence; and recommitting to our vision of a world with no names to read on this day.
For the third year, the Church of the Larger Fellowship will host an online vigil that can be attended by anyone with internet access. This service is a partnership with Standing on the Side of Love and Multicultural Ministries, and for the first time also a partnership with the new transgender-led coalition TDOR Unite!
Please join me for the online Transgender Day of Remembrance vigil this Sunday November 17 at 9:00pm ET. Click here to RSVP and spread the word.
Thank you for all that you do to stand on the side of love with trans* people and our communities. This Transgender Day of Remembrance, join in uniting across lines of difference and proclaiming that our lives are valuable!
Congregational Advocacy & Witness Program Coordinator
Unitarian Universalist Association
PS: Are you planning a Transgender Day of Remembrance vigil in your community? You can find our TDOR resource page here.
* – “Trans*” is an all-inclusive, umbrella term that refers to all of the non-normative identities within the gender identity spectrum. Check out this article to learn more.
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Women and families will continue to be marginalized by U.S. immigration systems unless Unitarian Universalists and others continue to advocate for gender- and health-equity in immigration reform.
On Monday, November 4th, please join the UUA Reproductive Justice team for a webinar, “The Embodied Border: Reproductive Justice and Immigration Reform,” as we discuss the intersections of these two hot-topics. You will have the opportunity to learn from issue experts as they delve into the legislative process, current legislation, and ways in which your congregation can create advocacy initiatives based on the connections between women’s issues and immigration. This webinar will kick off a series of monthly organizing opportunities on reproductive justice — keep an eye out for upcoming events.More >
Our long struggle to get comprehensive, compassionate immigration reform passed by Congress hangs in the balance over the next three weeks. Speaker John Boehner could allow a bill to come to the floor in the House for a vote. There is bi-partisan support in both chambers and polls show that 70% of registered voters want immigration reform. All that’s stopping us is the lack of action on the part of our elected officials.
Will you please join me in telling Speaker Boehner we need a vote on immigration reform and urge him to bring a bill to the House floor?
I am grateful for our religious movement and the people who have been standing on the side of love with immigrant families. My family is one of those families. In 1994, I came to the US from India on a student visa to study for the ministry. My wife and infant son joined me the following year. Despite producing the required paperwork, we were subjected to an arduous, often dehumanizing process before being granted visas. Even though we were fortunate enough to have the requisite documents, too often we have been told to leave because we did not belong here or had to prove that we were here legally. Even after becoming citizens in 2012, my family and I live with constant reminders that we are outsiders, people who don’t belong. For millions of others, the lack of those papers has led to detention, deportation, and the tearing apart of their families.
During my ministry in Florida, I met migrant farmworkers who would wake every day before 4 am and be packed into old school buses to travel to fields to pick 2.25 tons of tomatoes per day just to earn minimum wage. Some of these workers would be picked up and detained, deported without their wages, their families’ survival threatened, all because they went into town for a small break. Since I have been in the Washington, DC, area I have met courageous undocumented migrant leaders who have traveled here to advocate for their right to remain, risking arrest and deportation.
Earlier this month I was proud to witness UUA President Rev. Peter Morales demonstrate his profound commitment to immigrant justice by getting arrested on the steps of the Capitol with other prominent faith leaders and six members of Congress. He carried all our voices to Washington that day—all of us who have witnessed, organized, and formed partnerships for migrant justice through our congregations, youth groups, UU state advocacy networks, or individually in our communities.
Now, we need to come together once again to seize this historic opportunity, lending our shoulders and hands to bend the moral arc of the universe towards justice.
Now is the time to urge Speaker Boehner to give us a vote!
Our hard work has brought us to this point and we can’t stop now. We need to keep reminding our elected leaders that the role of government is to protect the rights of all of the people and to preserve the common good. What sustains me through my personal experiences and my witness for justice is my Unitarian Universalist faith. It accepts me for who I am, as I am, without prejudice or preconditions. By showing hospitality of the heart and hand, my faith community helps me feel grounded and at home in this country. May it be so for all people.
Rev. Abhi Janamanchi
Rev. Abhi Janamanchi is Senior Minister at Cedar Lane UU Church in Bethesda, MD, and previously served as Senior Minister for the Unitarian Universalists of Clearwater, FL, for fourteen years. His years of international and interfaith work include a former role as President of the International Association for Religious Freedom and he currently serves as UUA Ambassador to the Khasi Hills, India. Rev. Abhi lives with his wife, Lalitha, and two sons, Abhimanyu and Yashasvi, in the Washington, DC, area.
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I may be Buddhist, but I’ve spent a good portion of my years building bridges between Muslims and non-Muslims. As I was preparing for a reading recently of my second multigenerational book on Islam, Muhammad: the Story of a Prophet and Reformer, I pondered this rather unexpected vein in my life’s work.
Long ago as an undergrad in religious studies at the University of Colorado, long before the words Islam and terrorist were coupled together in our media, I sensed the profound Otherness of Islamic cultures for Americans. I remember seeing Raiders of the Lost Ark in 1981 and leaving the theater before the movie finished, fuming at the stereotyping of volatile, threatening Arabs. In that moment I recognized that Hollywood had used this shoddy currency throughout its history, lodging harmful images deeply in our cultural unconscious as what Sam Keen called the Faces of the Enemy.
A few decades and careers later, one of the first things I wanted to teach in public school was media literacy, most of all to help students identify The Other embedded in our everyday news—especially visual news. As U.S. involvement ramped up in the Middle East, it was almost too easy for my students to find images in newspapers, magazines, and TV of an angry, violent Arab mob. During these years in education, I was fortunate to receive several grants from the State Department to travel to the Middle East twice and collaborate with Muslim teachers and their classes. All of my U.S. students had email-pals in Egypt during the U.S. invasion of Iraq and we studied both countries’ unfolding media narratives. Believe me: They were two very different stories.
The stereotyping continues unabated. Most recently, I was deeply disappointed that the film Argo received such accolades. If you time the angry mob scenes, which front the film, as well as the turbaned gun-toting men running amok in the city, they take up about 50 times more of the narrative than the single, rather touching scene in which an Iranian actually voices her feelings about the U.S. role in aiding the Shah’s brutal regime.
I had my first book on Islam, Ayat Jamilah, Beautiful Signs: a Treasury of Islamic Wisdom for Children and Parents, with me when I visited teachers in Jordan. Some people actually wept at a book reading held in Amman—amazed that an American made the effort to present a respectful collection of the Islamic stories they’d grown up with.
So why did this Buddhist write the first multigenerational narrative about the life of Muhammad for non-Muslims and Muslims? Why did Skinner House Books, an imprint of the Unitarian Universalist Association, publish it? Because no one else had. Because our collective ignorance about Islam fuels our willingness to let our government wage wars again and again. Because Americans need to know why the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, is so beloved by millions around the globe. Because, whether one is a Believer or not, Muhammad’s story is one of the most remarkable and influential hero’s journeys in history. Because one man risked everything to follow a spiritual calling and guide others on a path of virtue. Because such a rare and courageous life is always worth our time and understanding.
This post was written by Sarah Conover. Although many of Sarah’s books target a multigenerational audience, she insists on accurate scholarship and a sensitivity to the complex, culturally embedded perspectives of religious faiths. She facilitates religious literacy through her writings, writing workshops, books on world wisdom traditions, interfaith dialogue, and media literacy training. Her web site is http://www.sarahconover.com/More >
On Sunday, Oct 13, around 100 member and friends of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Atlanta (UUCA) marched in the Atlanta Pride Parade to witness on behalf of LGBTQ rights.
UUCA Board President Joetta Prost said, “We looked great in our Standing on the Side of Love (and assorted other) t-shirts. Our choir members and musicians sang and played music all the way down Peachtree Street. [We had] wonderful responses that the crowds lining the street gave us when they saw our affirming messages. We had Rev. Makar and Rev. Thickstun leading the way. We had babies and grandmothers, and everything in between. I know that we sparked interest among parade watchers about the welcoming and accepting faith called Unitarian Universalism… and so we are keeping our commitment to change lives!”
Another participant, UUCA member Sven Lovegren, had this to say: “It was my first Pride Parade. I was amazed and heartened at the great number of people on the streets supportive of human/gay rights and equality for all. It was very heartwarming.”
Earlier in the day, during a special Pride Sunday worship service, I shared a story about a conversation I had with a local reporter back in June when the Supreme Court overturned the Defense of Marriage Act and Proposition 8. The reporter wanted to know about Unitarian Universalism’s stance on marriage equality and LGBTQ equality.
Here’s what I said, in a nutshell.
First, I talked about how Unitarian Universalists stand on the side of love. Committed, loving relationships between mature adults who have chosen to be together is something infinitely sweet. To cherish and be cherished is the most amazing thing in this world, and every day, people suffer and even die from the unfulfilled longing for it, gay and straight. Whenever we see such cherishment in the world, we all ought to stand up and cheer, we all ought to stand back and behold the miracle that is worthy of the name God. We all ought to. It is holy. It is the Sacred, it is the Mystery, it is the Divine.
For my second point to the reporter: I talked about how Unitarian Universalists have been supporting gay rights for a long time now. Gay rights as human rights, human rights as gay rights. We were saying that long before Hilary Clinton. As just an example: in 1970, the Unitarian Universalist Association passed a general resolution urging people to immediately bring an end to all prejudice against gays and lesbians and bisexuals. In that same year it also called for lifting of the ban prohibiting gays and lesbians folk from serving in the U.S. military. Then, in 1996, “transgender” was added to the name of the UUA’s office overseeing all of this: the Office of Bisexual, Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Concerns.
As for our work here at UUCA, I talked about our UU Lesbian and Gay Community from the early 1980s, how it was a powerful voice in Atlanta advocating for understanding and acceptance. I have a stack of newspapers from those days, and it’s amazing, all the things this congregation has done. Our current Interweave group was formed in 1994. We kicked off our initial Welcoming Congregation process in 1995, putting us on a path of becoming far more proactive around celebrating (vs. just tolerating) diversity.
I said all this, and then I told that reporter a third thing: how I sincerely believe that we Unitarian Universalists are far more faithful to the Hebrew and Christian scriptures than our so-called Bible-based opponents are—the Jerry Falwells and the Michele Bachmanns and the Sandy Rioses. Out of the seven passages in the entire Bible (Old Testament to New) that supposedly condemn “homosexuality,” none seem to actually talk about committed, loving relationships between people of the same sex. Scholars will tell you that the passages are probably talking about ritual forms of sex that occurred in the religions outside of Judaism and Christianity, and Jewish and Christian leaders wanted their followers to stay far away from it. Stay pure. But what we’re talking about today isn’t a religious ritual you can put on and take off like clothes: we’re talking about identity, what people are born as, how the manner of one’s loving flows out of that so very naturally. A completely different thing! We UUs, I told that reporter, are the ones who are doing the Bible justice.
The reporter sounded kind of stunned when I told her all this, as if she couldn’t believe that a church like ours actually existed. As if it amazed her that you could be a person of faith and affirm that LGBTQ people are as normal and as beautiful as a fall day.
All in all, it was a good day for the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Atlanta, for Unitarian Universalism, and for human rights!
This post was written by Rev. Anthony Makar, Senior Minister at the UU Congregation of Atlanta, Georgia.More >